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Understanding Domestic Violence
UNDERSTANDING THE ISSUES

What Is Domestic Violence?

"Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner."

— U.S. Department of Justice

Domestic violence can be physical, verbal, sexual, emotional/psychological, and/or financial in nature. It can happen to individuals of any race, nationality, age, gender, socio-economic strata, education level, sexual orientation, or religion.

1 in 3

Women Affected

Experience physical violence from an intimate partner nationwide (CDC).

1 in 4

Men Affected

Experience physical violence from an intimate partner nationwide (CDC).

2 in 5

South Asian Women

As many as 40%+ are victims of physical intimate partner violence (Raj & Silverman 2000).

Community Resources

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Am I Being Abused?

Identify subtle red flags, relationship power dynamics, and warning signs.

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Safety Planning

Step-by-step confidential safety guidance for emergency situations.

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THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

Understanding The 3 Abuse Phases

Adapted from Lenore Walker (1979). Not all relationships fit the cycle, but recognizing patterns helps.

01

Tension Building Phase

Tensions rise, verbal threats, nitpicking, isolation. Victim tries to calm him down, walking on eggshells.

02

Explosion Phase

Acute physical, verbal, or emotional abuse occurs. Victim protects self & children, calls police, or leaves.

03

Honeymoon Phase

Batterer apologizes, begs forgiveness, promises change. Temporary calm before the cycle repeats.

UNDERSTANDING PATTERNS

The Cycle Of Violence

Domestic violence often follows a predictable 3-phase cycle of behavior and response.

PHASE 01

Tension Building Phase

Batterer's Behavior:
  • Moody, nitpicking, yelling
  • Isolates victim & withdraws affection
  • Alcohol/substance abuse issues
  • Threatens or destroys property
Victim's Response:
  • Attempts to calm batterer down
  • Stays away from family & friends
  • Keeps children quiet
  • General feeling of "walking on eggshells"
PHASE 02

Explosion Phase

Batterer's Behavior:
  • Hitting, choking, physical violence
  • Severe verbal abuse & humiliation
  • Imprisonment, weapon use, rape
  • Throwing & breaking items
Victim's Response:
  • Protects self and children
  • Calls police or seeks emergency help
  • Tries to reason or fight back
  • Escapes or leaves the situation
PHASE 03

Honeymoon Phase

Batterer's Behavior:
  • Apologizes & begs forgiveness
  • Promises to seek counseling
  • Sends flowers, gifts & declares love
  • Swears "I will never do it again"
Victim's Response:
  • Agrees to stay or take batterer back
  • Attempts to stop legal proceedings
  • Sets up counseling appointments
  • Feels hopeful for real change

Key Insights On The Abuse Cycle:

  • Each phase may be followed by periods of temporary calm.
  • Each phase may last a different amount of time.
  • The cycle repeats over time if intervention is not sought.
  • Not all relationships fit the cycle; everyone's experience is unique.
Academic Source:
Adapted from Lenore Walker, The Battered Woman, Harper & Row (1979).